Breaking Bad Habits

Bad Habits

Episode Description

Bad habits can be easy to start but sometimes very difficult to stop. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn and therapist Falan Johnson talk about breaking bad habits, including where habits come from, how to know if a habit is bad, and steps you can take to stop it.

What to Expect

  • Habit cues & loops
  • How to break a bad habit
  • Benefits of breaking habits


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Things to Think About

  • Not all habits are bad, but if a habit is interrupting activities in your daily life, risking your health, or jeopardizing your relationships, it’s likely something that should be changed.
  • If you’re struggling with a bad habit, try listing out the reasons you started the habit and the reasons you’re trying to break it.
  • What is a bad habit that you’d like to break?

About the Hosts

Falan

Falan Johnson provides therapy for children, adolescents, and young adults ages 7 - 25. She believes it is her job to meet clients where they’re at and provide services specific to their needs. Falan is honored to be a positive change agent in the lives of people who come into her office. She believes in a holistic approach, not only considering the person as an individual but as part of a greater working system. Falan earned her master’s degree in Social Work from the University of North Dakota. She is certified in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).

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Breaking Bad Habits

Featuring Falan Johnson, LCSW, Dakota Family Services

Tim Unsinn:

Welcome to Mind Your Mind, a podcast presented by Dakota Family Services, an outpatient behavioral health clinic located in Minot, Bismarck, and Fargo, North Dakota. In this podcast, I will talk with our experts about understanding and nurturing our mental health and wellness. I'm your host, Tim Unsinn. Join me each episode as we explore the intricacies of our minds, decrease the stigma of mental illness, learn practical tips for managing our mental health and wellbeing, and recognize when it's time to ask for help. Join me now to mind your mind. Welcome to this episode of Mind Your Mind. Our guest is Falan Johnson. Falan is an outpatient behavioral health therapist on the Fargo campus and provides outpatient therapy for children, adolescents, and young adults. Falan, as always, great to have you on Mind Your Mind. Our topic is something that a lot of us deal with, bad habits, but before we get there, need to know why you do what you do?

Falan Johnson:

Well, thanks for having me, Tim. I think today's topic is probably a good preface for why I do what I do. I like to help people break habits that they don't love having and build better ones to improve their quality of life.

Tim Unsinn:

You know, the topic being breaking bad habits, we all have habits, so what makes a habit bad?

Falan Johnson:

Great question. I like to start there because I think when we put things in a category of good or bad, we get kind of stuck sometimes. So I think what makes a habit bad is when that is something that you find is interrupting your life and preventing you from accomplishing the goals that you wanna reach. Another good indicator is if this is starting to jeopardize your health, either your physical or your mental health in any way, that might be a good indicator that it's a not so healthy habit for you.

Tim Unsinn:

Yeah. If it's not something that builds you up, you may wanna look at changing that. So I've heard the term habit loop. So what is a habit loop, number one, and what does it look like?

Falan Johnson:

So basically, when a behavior has reached the point of being considered a habit, it is a behavior that we're doing from a relatively unconscious standpoint at this point. So I think of some really common ones would be like nail biting or smoking is one that I think people can relate with. So when it's a behavior that's become relatively unconscious, that means, I like to say it's kind of hijacking our hippocampus, which is our short and our long-term memory. And this can actually really be a positive function. It helps us do things without being so intentional all the time. So it actually helps us build positive habits as well. But in the instance of a bad habit, right, it can be trickier to catch. So with the habit loop, that is going to consist of a cue. So that can be environmental, it can be internal, maybe it's a sound, maybe it's a feeling. And then we go into the behavior and then that behavior is rewarded in some way with some sort of positive reinforcement.

Tim Unsinn:

So that's the habit loop. So what need am I meeting when I engage in this habit?

Falan Johnson:

So this is where the mindfulness part is gonna come in, which just means paying attention on purpose, nonjudgmentally. So again, because it becomes so ingrained to the point where we're not even really noticing it, the first step is going to be slowing down and paying attention to what is that behavior we're engaging in? What is the cue? What are we getting out of it? So let's say if the behavior's nail biting, maybe we opened up an email from a colleague and we notice it triggered anxiety for us, and that's when we start the nail biting. Well, we're trying to soothe our anxiety properly.

Tim Unsinn:

You don't open up those emails anymore. No, that's not <laugh>, that's not the answer.

Falan Johnson:

<Laugh>. Yeah. So in that situation, the feeling would be anxiety, right? And we're trying to soothe that anxiety. So again, I brought up smoking earlier. A lot of times that can be something that people use to self-soothe. I think it's important to think about the reasons you created the habit in the first place are often very different from the reasons you wanna break the habit. So when I think about smoking, a lot of times that's a habit that's taken on in adolescence or early adulthood and maybe the goal is to fit in or look cool. Well, you know, when you're in the latter part of your life, right, and you're starting to have some of these negative reinforcers, like the beginning stages of COPD, it's not meeting that same need for you anymore. So just slowing down. What is the need? Where did this habit start and what is the need that it's meeting for you today?

Tim Unsinn:

Well, and I can think of benefits to replacing those behaviors. What are some of those?

Falan Johnson:

Well, I guess I'll carry on with smoking, right? So if you are in the latter part of your life, it's probably not as important to you to look cool and fit in as it was when you were maybe 16. So a benefit to replacing that behavior is you're gonna reduce your risk of COPD, cancer, diabetes, everything, really. You're gonna be able to sustain higher levels of activity for longer. So essentially you are just gonna want to mindfully sit down and even list these out. What are the benefits to changing this habit for you? So you've got it right there in front of you. Because when you have that urge to engage in the habit, it's really easy to forget about all those reasons why.

Tim Unsinn:

Alright, so another side question for you. Is it also beneficial to, for example, staying on the smoking theme, think of all the benefits to those around you? Should we write a list of things, the benefits of those around us? So maybe we are not as strong at breaking that habit, but we look at a list and say, oh, my family, you know, are there benefits that way?

Falan Johnson:

Absolutely. I think that is going to come down to each individual. So some people are much more motivated by doing things that are gonna be helpful or benefit others. Some people are not gonna be as motivated. Some people are gonna be more motivated for the self-improvement piece of things. And there's no right or wrong answer to that. I think it's just important to know how you work best and plan accordingly.

Tim Unsinn:

Super. Thank you. Our topic has been breaking bad habits, our guest Falan Johnson. And before we wrap up and put a bow on this podcast, would you tell us please, what you personally do to mind your mind?

Falan Johnson:

Well, lately I would say really snuggling in with my dog lately. I don't know. It's, it's just working for me.

Tim Unsinn:

And that helps you out. Great. That's awesome. Thank you so much again for being on Mind Your Mind. We appreciate your time and talent with us. Thank you.

Falan Johnson:

Thank you.

Tim Unsinn:

Thank you for joining us for Mind Your Mind, a podcast presented by Dakota Family Services. You can't have health without behavioral health. Remember to mind your mind. For more information, links to additional resources, contact information, and much more. Go to Dakotafamilyservices.org.

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