Living with Chronic Illness

Chronic Illness

Episode Description

Many of us know someone who has been diagnosed with a chronic illness, or have been diagnosed with one ourselves. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn talks with therapist April Morris about how chronic illness can impact daily living and mental health, as well as how to seek support if you have been diagnosed with a chronic illness.

What to Expect

  • What is a chronic illness?
  • How chronic illness impacts mental health
  • How to improve your quality of life


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Things to Think About

  • In addition to your support system of family and friends, finding specific illness-centered support groups in your community can also help you navigate a diagnosis.
  • When dealing with a chronic illness, don’t measure your self-worth by what you can or can’t accomplish day-to-day.

About the Hosts

April

April Morris provides therapy for adolescents and adults. She enjoys working with clients from all walks of life, and is honored to join them on their mental health journey and help them build skills to adapt to life challenges. She loves building relationships with people and is dedicated to helping them become their best selves.

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Living with Chronic Illness

Featuring April Morris, LCSW, Dakota Family Services

Tim Unsinn:

Welcome to Mind Your Mind, a podcast presented by Dakota Family Services, an outpatient behavioral health clinic, located in Minot, Bismarck, and Fargo, North Dakota. In this podcast, I will talk with our experts about understanding and nurturing our mental health and wellness. I'm your host, Tim Unsinn. Join me each episode as we explore the intricacies of our minds, decrease the stigma of mental illness, learn practical tips for managing our mental health and wellbeing, and recognize when it's time to ask for help. Join me now to mind your mind. Welcome to this episode of Mind Your Mind. Our guest is April Morris. April is an outpatient therapist in Fargo and provides therapy for those over 12, primarily adults. April, great to have you on Mind Your Mind. Our topic is living with chronic illness. What a great topic. We'll get to that in just a moment, but before we start, something I ask all of our guests and that is why do you do what you do?

April Morris:

I think I've just always been a people person and enjoy supporting others and it's really humbling being part of their growth, whether it would be strengths or challenges.

Tim Unsinn:

Love that. Thank you. Alright, the topic is living with chronic illness and I really believe this is one of those topics that hits so many of us because there's, and we talk about chronic illness, I think of aches and pains as we go around the sun more times and more times it just happens, but it is a real thing living with chronic illness. So why is coping with chronic illness so difficult and where do I start?

April Morris:

Yes. I think first, just even clarifying how it's defined. So it's a condition that lasts one year or more and requires ongoing medical care and/or limits activities of daily living. So examples that people have probably heard about would be heart disease, lung disease, kidney disease, diabetes, Alzheimer's, cancer, and there's so many.

Tim Unsinn:

Yeah, that's a pretty long list.

April Morris:

Yes. And so I think it's really important to just think about it being difficult because it is not going to resolve. It is something that is going to just be part of your daily life and that often means needing to alter your day-to-day life, to have good quality of life. Sometimes I think when you think of these diseases that people are challenged by, you can't see them. Right? If I saw you on the street, I wouldn't know that you have lung disease per se. So I think sometimes people can get frustrated that it can be difficult explaining to other people what their limits are and managing their symptoms in that day-to-day life when you can't see what is actually going on. And this is where that Spoons Theory podcast that we did one other time would come in and really talks about some of these silent illnesses, if you will, that you can't see and what people might be challenged with as far as where to start. It really starts with learning more about your diagnosis and the recommendations on how you can best manage it outside of your medical care. Right? Of course, this includes medical visits with your provider, making sure that you feel like your provider's a good fit, that you guys can talk about emotional health needs within your physical health, and of course always the nutrition and physical activity that best fits with your illness.

Tim Unsinn:

Well, I'm thinking too, as you talk about chronic illness, you talk about, you know, over a year and knowing that every day that you get up it's gonna be with you. I mean there's things you can help to maybe ease some of that pain, but it's always going to be with you. So how does chronic illness then impact emotional health?

April Morris:

Yes, absolutely. We know that physical and emotional health is so connected, there's a lot of overlapping symptoms, there's a lot of research talking about physical and emotional pain and so absolutely we know they're connected. I think the biggest thing to think about is how much it can force a person to shift their roles and their priorities and how that can impact people's purpose in life, their identity and their self-worth. For example, if it's somebody that over time is going to lose some physical independence, that can be really hard for people to learn to cope with. And often that is something that is a primary topic. When I'm seeing people in therapy, of course we know that chronic illness can often be connected and lead to higher rates of depression, anxiety, because there's a lot of fear of loss of control and our future being unpredictable with disease progression. I also think about just the impacts and the interconnectedness with sleep and exercise and nutrition. If we're having physical conditions that are impacting those things, we know then that's also going to impact our mood. We know how much our mood is impacted when we don't get enough sleep, when we don't eat right. And that's even when we're not maybe diagnosed with a specific mental health condition, they are so interconnected.

Tim Unsinn:

So what are the ways I can improve my quality of life?

April Morris:

That's a great question. I think you're gonna find a lot of little tidbits. I mean obviously primarily it's regular healthcare visits. Of course, taking medications as prescribed when you do already have an illness that you are managing. Staying active of course we just talked about improves our mental health and our sleep can improve our weight management, our pain, and just helping us keep our independence as long as possible. Physically eating healthy foods, engaging in pleasurable activities and hobbies. This is really where that piece can come in. Where if we're shifting our priorities, not focusing on the things that we can or can't do when it comes to maybe chores or household things, but really shift our priorities. What matters in life, you know, what gives us purpose and meaning? Is it just spending time with family? I think sometimes in a society, what did you do today gets connected to our self-worth and I think that's really important to think about when you're thinking about people that can't physically do a lot today, but that shouldn't connect. That's not what life should be about. Right? <Laugh>, I think about other things that are obviously helpful. Mindfulness, you know, stress relief activities, always avoiding alcohol, substance use, you know, even sometimes limiting caffeine and really just asking for help and looking at how that, that can even just validate your family saying they don't have those big expectations of you, they just want you to be happy.

Tim Unsinn:

When I think too is for us that know of somebody that has this, you know, chronic illness, maybe it's an opportunity for us to show extra kindness as opposed to, you know, what did you do today? What do you got going on? You know, be more empathetic, I guess is what I'm trying to say. And be more kind.

April Morris:

Absolutely. When working with people that were going through some of their cancer treatments, sometimes that was, they didn't wanna talk about that as much as the other person may want to genuinely know how they're doing and where things are at. That person going through it might just wanna talk about other things in life. I think there's some really good information out there too, on how you can support a loved one with chronic illness and yeah, it is not saying, let me know if I can do anything for you, right, is the statement, and we mean well, but actually asking something more specific because in the Midwest people have a hard time asking for help, so we have to keep that in mind. And so I think there's working on us asking for help as well as working on offering help in a specific way that can go both ways.

Tim Unsinn:

Well now we've got somebody that's got chronic illness, they've, they've got pain and there's so much more than just that pain getting up every morning. But the piece of the mental piece of that that we're thinking, okay, I can't do this and this and you know, my expectations and all that stuff. So at what point do we seek help and where do we look for that help?

April Morris:

Yeah, I think you kind of led into that when we're having a hard time adjusting those expectations of ourselves and reprioritizing obligations. If we are noticing, you know, anxiety and depression symptoms we're, we're feeling down really having a hard time enjoying some of those positives in our day, then yes, we should reach out and consider individual therapy. Couples and family therapy can be helpful too in these situations. If you have an immediate family member with chronic illness, I think about in addition to your support system in your life that you've selected, but looking at support groups and networks that are disease specific, right? Like the American Heart Association and different organizations where you can connect to others that are going through it. There's just so much validation that comes from that type of support that it's not going to be the same as family members or a therapist. And so like, I want it all, I want the family and friends. I want therapy and I want a good support network of somebody that is struggling with what I'm struggling with.

Tim Unsinn:

Great information. Any other final thoughts on living with chronic illness?

April Morris:

No, there's, there's a lot in that topic, but I hope this was a good start.

Tim Unsinn:

It is. Excellent start. Thank you so much. April Morris, our guest on Mind Your Mind, and before we wrap up, always that final question and because there's so much that goes on in your day every day and you're helping people and that's a lot of stuff to have, what do you do personally to mind your mind?

April Morris:

I think just making sure that I can also engage in my hobbies and things I enjoy, like going to the lake and spending time with family and otherwise when I can do small mindfulness pieces here and there that really kind of just help, you know, stay grounded and manage stress to be able to support other people. Gotta do mindfulness.

Tim Unsinn:

Thank you. Thank you for sharing your time and talent with us here on Mind Your Mind.

Tim Unsinn:

Thank you for joining us for Mind Your Mind, a podcast presented by Dakota Family Services. You can't have health without behavioral health. Remember to mind your mind. For more information, links to additional resources, contact information, and much more, go to Dakotafamilyservices.org.

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