Untangling Your Child's Grief
Episode Description
Children experience grief over many things—the loss of a loved one, moving away from their friends, the death of a pet. In this episode of "Mind Your Mind," Lucas Mitzel, a therapist at Dakota Family Services, talks about the stages of grief, and how to walk your child through the grieving process. He will also talk about ways to determine if your child needs to see a professional who can help them untangle the many emotions of grief.What to Expect
- The five stages of grief.
- Tips for grieving in a healthy way.
- Signs that you or your child may need professional help.
- Recognize the difference between grief and depression.
Things to Think About
- Am I grieving or pushing my grief aside?
- Is my child exhibiting irregular behavior?
- Is this grief or has it morphed into depression?
- Do I need to seek professional help for me or my child?
About the Hosts
Lucas Mitzel provides therapy for children, adolescents, and adults, ages 5 - 30. He believes building relationships with clients is the most important piece of successful therapy. He loves what he does, because it allows him to walk next to people he would never have met had he chosen a different profession, as they work to make amazing life changes. He has the honor of meeting people at their worst, all while watching them grow into the people they’ve always wanted to be.
Transcript
Untangling Your Child's Grief
Featuring Lucas Mitzel, LCSW, Dakota Family Services
Host Tim Unsinn:
Welcome to Mind Your Mind, a podcast presented by Dakota Family Services an outpatient behavioral health clinic located in Minot, Bismarck, and Fargo North Dakota. In this podcast, I will talk with our experts about understanding and nurturing our mental health and wellness. I'm your host, Tim Unsinn. Join me each episode as we explore the intricacies of our minds, decrease the stigma of mental illness, learn practical tips for managing our mental health and well-being, and recognize when it's time to ask for help. Join me now to Mind Your Mind. Welcome to this episode of Mind Your Mind. I'll be talking with Lucas Mitzel about grief. Lucas is a therapist on the Fargo campus and provides outpatient therapy for children, adolescents, and young adults. Lucas. Before we get into the topic today, please tell us why you do what you do.
Lucas Mitzel:
So I think, you know, the big, the biggest reason I do what I do and I could talk about this probably for a good couple of hours, but my goal is to help people become the best versions of themselves that they can be and whatever that means for each individual person, each kid, each adult I see. My goal is to make them feel like they are better when they leave my office and that they just, they feel like they can be their best.
Host Tim Unsinn:
Great answer. Easy answer. I knew you'd have a good one for that one. So now let's talk about grief. What are the stages of grief and what do they look like?
Lucas Mitzel:
Five stages of grief. And I'll just go in order. And then I'll kind of explain what each one means. And so the first one would be denial, and then we go into bargaining, anger, depression, and acceptance. Now each one is very similar, but looks very different at the same time. And so denial would look and I'll give you a real example of something that's happened. And so with denial--with a kid who's maybe moving away he was saying things like, "I'm not moving, this is not happening. There's no way I'm moving away from my friends." And then bargaining saying things like, "Well, I promise I'll be good. I promise I'll go to church every week." Things like this to try and get his, his way and stay. So he doesn't have to move away. Then that led into anger saying, "I can't believe that this is happening."
"I can't believe you're doing this to me. This is not fair." And then depression looked like, "I'm going to miss my friends a lot. This is going to be really, really hard." Finally acceptance for him, looked more like, "Well, now I guess I'm ready. I'm going to make new friends." And grief is weird in that it's not just a singular, there's no straight line through grief. And so you can go like denial, bargaining, anger, bargaining, depression, bargaining, depression, anger, depression, anger, and then acceptance. And so you can go back and forth throughout that process over and over again until you reach acceptance. Acceptance is where all of the healing really starts to begin when you're talking about grief. And there are times too, when denial is really difficult to get out of for kids, and adults, but so much so that they're almost denying that something even happened. And that can be really challenging for some people. But like I said, it, it looks very different for every single person.
Host Tim Unsinn:
So when does, you're talking about grief talking about all of the stages of grief. So when does someone need to seek help regarding grief.
Lucas Mitzel:
I'm going to give kind of a lame answer and then I'm gonna get a little more specific. It depends is, is really the biggest answer. It depends on a lot of different issues and that can be depending on age, depending on what your past experiences are, who the person was, if you're grieving a person. What the loss was. And so grief is associated with a lot of confusing thoughts and, and feelings, and it can be very beneficial to have a professional kind of unravel that. And I've, I've seen really cool pictures of what therapy is, is like, it's a picture of two thought bubbles. And one has a tangled mess of yarn, and then the therapist is taking the yarn and wrapping it back up. Kind of making sense of all the thoughts. And that's kind of what we do in our office is we take your thoughts and we take your feelings and we try and look at them and kind of make sense of those together.
Lucas Mitzel:
For kids specifically, it can be really difficult to know when, when do I need to seek help to assist with my child, because, you know, as parents care about your kids, you're worried that this might be a really difficult time. And there's some key things that you can look out for to make sure that every, that they're going through this appropriately. And a big sign is any sort of behaviors that could come from that. So any acting out. Maybe there's all of a sudden they're having a lack of hygiene, or maybe they're starting to isolate more and maybe they're getting really, really irritable and crabby. Maybe they can't sleep. All of these could be warning signs that maybe this is a little bit bigger than just grief, or maybe they're struggling with this grief process. But a big thing to keep in mind is that it needs to be impacting daily life.
Lucas Mitzel:
So when something happens and you're going through grief, things are going to change and it's going to be really difficult at times, depending on what that is. And so you need to just be careful because, you know, if, if they go a weekend and they just don't want to shower, but they lost maybe their grandpa on Friday, that that might make sense. It's if this is starting to impact maybe everyday life and getting really difficult to manage, then you might want to start looking at coming in. You would also want to look at developmental age too. A five-year-old is probably going to respond to this a lot differently than a 15 year old, depending on what's going on. And so if you have your child is really struggling with like crying and having outbursts and they're five, that would probably make a lot of sense.
Lucas Mitzel:
Now, if they're 15 and they're crying and having a lot of physical outbursts, there's maybe something else going on too. And so you just need to make sure that you're taking that into account for yourself. You know, when do you, when do I seek help for me? A good indicator could be, you know, people who have been in a similar boat who are maybe grieving the same thing, are they moving on? Are they getting better? And maybe you're not. And has it been a couple of months? And it seems like everybody's moved on with their life and, and is kind of quote unquote over it. And you are still stuck back in, you know, August when this occurred. And it's December, that could be a sign that maybe this is changing a bit. And another good tool you can use is if you've gone through things like this in the past, if you've lost someone or something, how did you handle it back then? Is this a lot tougher? Were you able to, was this where you were at before? Because you know yourself and you're gonna be able to tell that something something's different this time. And so those are just some tips to try and figure out if maybe maybe some help would be necessary.
Host Tim Unsinn:
So I'm hearing you talk about grief and in the back of my mind, I'm feeling and thinking depression. So what's the difference between grief and depression?
Lucas Mitzel:
Yeah, that's, that's, that's a really great question because a lot of symptoms of grief really mimic depression. The biggest thing that we look at is what are your thoughts and your thoughts kind of dictate what's kind of going on. Along with a timeline too, like we were talking about. And so for example, grief has a lot of feelings of emptiness and loss. Whereas depression will have the persistent, like depressed mood, or like, you're not able to feel happiness or pleasure anymore. With grief, you might have intense sadness, but that should typically decrease over time and probably will come in waves. Whereas like I said, depression is more constant and you're not typically thinking of the loved one you lost. It's more of a thoughts towards yourself and like feelings of worthlessness and self-loathing. And if there are feelings when you're grieving and you have these negative feelings towards yourself, typically it's within the context of that individual or of that thing.
Lucas Mitzel:
So for example, it could be like, "I didn't spend enough time with my dad and I'm, I feel really guilty about that." That's probably grief and not necessarily depression with grief, your self esteem would be preserved. Whereas with depression, your self esteem will tank and you might have with grief, you could still have thoughts of death. That's a really big thing for depression. However, it's more about like maybe wanting to join the deceased. It's more focused on the lost person that you have, whereas wanting to die when it comes to depression comes from that feeling of worthlessness and like you are a burden on everybody else, and that things would just be better off if you were gone. And so if you find that you're, you're feeling those things and you, and you're hearing yourself in that, that might be a really good sign or indicator that you should probably seek some help and try and get some of that, that stuff worked out. Cause that's when we've crossed into the threshold of like, this is not normal anymore, and this is probably not healthy. Those are some of the, some of the big signs, but thoughts are the biggest piece of that. What are you thinking of? What are you focused on when it comes to your sadness? But they do feel very similar.
Host Tim Unsinn:
It's probably good as well as we are observing people around us that we feel maybe in grief or depression, maybe looking for, you know, maybe some of the easy signs as indicators.
Lucas Mitzel:
Absolutely. And so when you have loved ones that are, are grieving and you, you are noticing, you know, if they're, if they're isolating more, if they're not getting out of bed, if they're not cleaning themselves, if they're giving things away, or if there's a lot of negative self-talk, all of these could be indicators that there's something bigger than grief. It could be very much triggered by whatever they're grieving. I know I focused a lot on grieving the loss of individuals, but like that first example I gave where that child was grieving the loss of friends because of moving and it can happen. I mean, with, with COVID, we saw a whole bunch of people grieving the loss of their jobs and grieving the loss of even just the routine. Kids not being able to go to school.
Lucas Mitzel:
You know, I meet with older individuals who are grieving the loss of a life they thought they would get because of whatever circumstances happened. And you see all of the stages of grief in that. You can experience the stages of grief without losing a person. I think we get, we get kind of stuck in that mindset where it's like, well, I'm really sad, but I didn't like nobody died. We can still go through all of these things. When people come into inpatient treatment, you see kids going through the stages of grief, like the first day, they're in denial, the next couple of days, they're bargaining with their parents. And then all of a sudden they get really mad and maybe even depressed and finally they're accepting and now they're working. And, you know, but even that, in that context, it ranges in timeframes. And so it's, it's just, this is a really good model to be aware of when looking at things,
Host Tim Unsinn:
Lucas Mitzel is with us right now. We're talking about grief. Lucas is a therapist on the Fargo campus of Dakota Family Services, providing outpatient therapy for children, adolescents, and young adults. So we're talking about grief. What is the best way for someone to grieve?
Lucas Mitzel:
So again, I'm going to use kind of a lame response first, and then I'm going to get more detail. It depends. And so it's really based on you and, and how you do things. And I can never sit and say that you are grieving necessarily incorrectly, as long as you are grieving, as long as you are allowing those feelings to come out in a way that is helpful for you. And it makes you feel better and is not destructive, then you are likely grieving appropriately. What most do struggle with is, is allowing those feelings to come out because grieving doesn't feel good. It's a painful experience. I mean, if you look at those stages, denial, bargaining, anger, depression, and acceptance, four out of five of them have negative connotations. And so it doesn't feel good to do this.
Lucas Mitzel:
The thing about grief though, like I said, grief is kind of weird if you it's one of the emotions or one of the life cycles that if you don't allow it to happen the way it wants to, in the way that it should, it's going to come out sideways. And so you see this with people who don't allow it go through and, and all, all of a sudden they're feeling really depressed and then anxiety starts coming up and it's starting to kind of mold or take its own form kids. Kids also struggle with this a lot, especially the boys I see. Cause they gotta be tough, you know, and it's, it's really good to encourage our loved ones to allow that to be let out. And so when you're feeling things, allow it, allow yourself to feel it. It's not a bad thing to feel sadness or want to cry.
Lucas Mitzel:
There are appropriate times to push it down. I get that. I would do the same thing. However, when you are in an appropriate space to let it out, you need to let it out. That's the only way it gets out. And that's the only way that healing can really start to happen. There's an analogy that I like to use, especially with kids, just because it seems to resonate with them. Grief is like holding onto a sponge that gets really wet and I don't really want to get wet. And so, because it doesn't feel right on my hands. And so I, instead of allowing the water to escape, naturally, I put it into a cardboard box. Well, what happens when you put a wet sponge in a cardboard box, it starts to get the box all wet. And now not only do I have a wet sponge, but I have a wet box and I got to get rid of the box now.
Lucas Mitzel:
So it's coming out sideways, and it's making a little bit more of a mess than I intended. So then some people at that point, they take it out of the box and they start to ring it out and they deal with it. Other people go a step further and they maybe grab some Tupperware and they put it in that and it's not going to leak out of there. So they seal it up and they put it away. Well, then something happens and they start noticing something, maybe something starts to smell. So they maybe open up the cabinets or whatever they had it in. And it's all moldy and disgusting. And it just, it looks weird and it's just gross. So now the only way to clean it is, we got to open it up, which is even worse now. And we got to kind of scrub all that mold off and that can take some time.
Lucas Mitzel:
And you would do that with a therapist essentially. But the whole point of that analogy is if we don't ring it out right away and just get a little wet, it's going to be a little bit more difficult to clean up in the, in the future. Regardless, we have to clean out the sponge. So it's it's important to encourage that with loved ones. And especially with kids, you know, I think that the most powerful thing that a parent can do, because parents want to be strong for their kids, they want to show them that, you know, everything's in control and that everything's going to be okay. But the most powerful thing a parent can do is to cry in front of their children and show them and role model for them. That grieving is okay and grieving is healthy and it's encouraged, and that will then allow them to do the same thing. Those who a lot of times, people who don't do that, they might start to think that you know, you have to hold it all in. You can't let it out. And that, again, leads to the moldy sponge, which we don't want.
Host Tim Unsinn:
It's been a great conversation. Lucas, you've shared amazing information with us. And I love the fact that podcast we're able to hit pause. We're able to rewind, we hit play. We can go back over the information you've shared with us and just listen to it, apply it, use it, share it, and really learn from it. I really appreciate the podcast. Now, before we go, I ask everyone the same question as we wrap up our podcast. And the question is simply this. You've shared with us. You talk with children, adolescents, young adults, you get a lot of information in. So in getting all that, what do you do personally, to mind your mind?
Lucas Mitzel:
Great question. I love to play guitar. I love music. That's a really big passion of mine. I'm also quite nerdy. For anybody who's been in my office, I have Star Wars stuff put up all over. And so I also like to play video games every now and again. And I love playing board games with family and friends. And so those are some of the ways that I take care of my stress and I mind my mind.
Host Tim Unsinn:
Lucas, thank you for being on mind your mind. We appreciate you so much. Thank you for sharing your time and your talent with us. Thank you for joining us for a mind, your mind, a podcast presented by Dakota Family Services. You can't have health without behavioral health. Remember to mind your mind. For more information links, to additional resources, contact information, and much more go to Dakotafamilyservices.org.
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Coping Exercises
Many people find themselves dealing with high levels of stress and anxiety in their daily lives. However, there are plenty of simple strategies to help regulate these emotions. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn talks with therapist Sandy Richter about various coping exercises to help you regulate and calm yourself, including breathing and movement exercises for both children and adults.;
Genetic Testing & Its Role in Treatment
Medication can affect people in many different ways. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn and psychiatric nurse practitioner Amanda Daggett talk about genetic testing and its use in discerning how different individuals might react to various medications. Tim and Amanda also touch on some of the facts and myths surrounding genetic testing, including what testing can and can’t indicate and where the science is currently at.;
Understanding Anxiety
Anxiety is one of the most common mental health problems people face. However, there are many ways to manage and understand it. On this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn and therapist Lucas Mitzel discuss what causes anxiety and how it can affect people’s day-to-day lives, as well as the difference between anxiety and fear and how to combat chronic anxiety with grounding techniques.;
The Power of Social Connections (Community Chat Series)
In this special Community Chat episode of Mind Your Mind, Psychologist Megan Spencer and Psychiatrist Wayne Martinsen discuss how loneliness and social isolation are increasing in our country, as well as what that means for individuals’ health in the long term. They also give advice on how to get yourself or your loved ones more connected with others, including how to connect both in-person and online.;
Shining Light in the Darkness with DBT (Community Chat Series)
Does it seem like your child is “stuck” in therapy, or engaging in dangerous behaviors like self-harm and suicidality? In this special Community Chat episode of Mind Your Mind, Psychologist Hannah Baczynski and therapist April Morris discuss Dialectical Behavior Therapy and its effectiveness in treating patients who have found traditional therapy unsuccessful. Learn about the 4 core skills of DBT and what makes DBT unique from other forms of therapeutic treatment.;
Does My Child Need Medication?
When our children are struggling with their mental health, it can be hard knowing how to help them. However, in addition to therapy, medication can be a viable and effective option for improving your child’s mental health. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, our host Tim Unsinn talks with psychiatric mental health nurse Amanda Daggett about how to know if your child needs medication, what the process is for a prescription, and how to tell if their medication is right for them.;
Depression in Children and Adolescents
Did you know that depression occurs in about 15% of children? In this episode of Mind Your Mind, our host Tim Unsinn talks with Psychiatrist Dr. Wayne Martinsen about depression in kids and adolescents, including signs of depression to look out for and how to know when to reach out to a care provider. They also touch on how to know whether your child’s sadness is caused by depression or other external factors and what you can do to try and prevent depression in your child.;
Recognizing Depression in Children & Adolescents (Community Chat Series)
It can be difficult knowing how to recognize and treat depression in children and adolescents. In this special community chat episode of Mind Your Mind, Psychologist Megan Spencer and Therapist April Morris discuss signs of depression to look out for, including both behavioral and physical signs that your child may be depressed. They also touch on the influence of environment, physical illnesses or diagnoses, and genetics on children’s mental health.;
How to Fit In While Staying True to Yourself
Humans are hardwired for social connection, but it can be difficult knowing where to fit in as unique individuals. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn and therapist Christy Wilkie talk about the importance of using your strengths, interests, and relationships to figure out where you belong. They also touch on signs that you might not be staying true to yourself, as well as how to handle feelings of being left out.;
PTSD: Signs, Symptoms, & Treatment (Community Chat Series)
While often perceived as only relating to those who’ve experienced warfare, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can affect anyone. In this special Community Chat episode of Mind Your Mind, Psychologist Dr. Hannah Baczynski and therapist Lucas Mitzel explain what trauma is, how it affects each person differently, and when to seek treatment for trauma-related symptoms. They also discuss different treatment options for PTSD, touching on the pros and cons of each.;
Autism in Children & Adolescents (Community Chat Series)
Though autism is one of the most commonly discussed mental health diagnoses in the community, it is often one of the most misunderstood. In this special Community Chat episode of Mind Your Mind, therapists Lucas Mitzel and Falan Johnson discuss what autism is, how it appears in children and adolescents, and how it may look different between individuals. They also touch on how autism can show up differently in boys than in girls and offer intervention tips for parents and caregivers.;
Autism in Adults (Community Chat Series)
Autism is sometimes perceived as a disorder that only affects children and adolescents, but it is actually a lifelong diagnosis. In this special Community Chat episode of Mind Your Mind, psychologists Dr. Hannah Baczynski and Dr. Megan Spencer explore the symptoms and nuances of autism in adults, touching on the history of autism spectrum disorder, the research surrounding it, how autism commonly presents in adults, and more.;
Spirituality & Mental Health
Though spirituality is often associated with religion, it can mean much more than simply attending religious services or praying. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn and psychiatrist Dr. Wayne Martinsen define spirituality and discuss its relevance in daily life, touching on ways people experience, express, and cultivate spirituality. They also talk about the link between spirituality, religion and meaning in life.;
Setting Healthy & Realistic Goals
Setting goals is easy. Working towards them is hard. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn talks with Dakota Family Services therapist Christy Wilkie about how to set healthy, realistic goals, as well as the importance of managing your expectations and staying persistent. Whether you’re starting an exercise routine, writing a book, trying a new diet, or building your career, keep these tips in mind when setting your next big goal.;
Facing Your Fears
Fear is powerful. It can cause us to avoid problems, people, and even opportunities in our life. But it can also be overcome. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn speaks with Falan Johnson, a therapist at Dakota Family Services, about the function of fear and how to face it. Learn where fear comes from, how to identify it, and how to calm down and build confidence when you’re feeling afraid.;
The Three R's: Regulate, Relate & Reason
In this episode of Mind Your Mind, our host Tim Unsinn talks with Dakota Family Services therapist Jessie Mertz about the “3 R’s”—Regulate, Relate, and Reason. They discuss what each term means, how they build upon each other, and how this approach can help you calm others who are experiencing distress.;
What is Schizophrenia?
Schizophrenia is a chronic, complex mental health disorder that affects around 1% of people in the United States. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn and psychiatrist Dr. Wayne Martinsen discuss the symptoms and implications of schizophrenia, touching on its many effects on individual and family life. Learn about how schizophrenia is treated, how it affects physical health, when it tends to develop, and how it is perceived between cultures.;
How to Have a Conversation About Mental Health
Although the stigma surrounding mental health is gradually disappearing, it can still be tricky knowing how to talk about it. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn and psychologist Megan Spencer explore how to have a conversation with someone about their mental health, including signs that you should talk to them, how to start the conversation, and some possible reactions to expect from the other person.;
The Benefits of Being Outside
Are you feeling cooped up indoors? Join host Tim Unsinn and therapist Lucas Mitzel in this episode of Mind Your Mind as they discuss the importance of getting outside on your mental health. Learn about the benefits of green and blue spaces, activities you can do while outside, and how being outside can help improve symptoms of different mental health diagnoses.;
Dealing With Burnout
In this episode of Mind Your Mind, Tim Unsinn talks with psychologist Dr. Hannah Baczynski about the signs of burnout, how to prevent it, and how to know if your burnout is related to general life stressors or a mental health disorder. They also talk about the difference between fatigue and burnout, as well as how to support yourself and alleviate burnout when you’re experiencing it.;
Living with Chronic Illness
Many of us know someone who has been diagnosed with a chronic illness, or have been diagnosed with one ourselves. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn talks with therapist April Morris about how chronic illness can impact daily living and mental health, as well as how to seek support if you have been diagnosed with a chronic illness.;
Bipolar Disorder: Understanding the Highs and Lows
Although the term ‘bipolar’ is sometimes used as slang to describe someone who is moody or indecisive, true bipolar disorder is a complex and sometimes severe mental health disorder that affects the way a person thinks, feels, and behaves. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn discusses bipolar disorder with nurse practitioner Amanda Daggett, touching on what the disorder is, what its symptoms look like, and how it can be treated.;
Social Media: Managing Emotions & Setting Boundaries
How much time do you spend each day looking at your phone? An hour or two? Multiple hours? In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn meets with therapist Christy Wilkie to discuss how social media use can impact our mental health, relationships, and behavior. Learn tips for monitoring your child’s internet use, as well as how to manage your own time spent on social media.;
Understanding OCD
While OCD is sometimes perceived as simply a desire to keep things neat and organized, it can actually have much more severe symptoms for those who experience it. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn meets with psychologist Dr. Megan Spencer to talk about who Obsessive Compulsive Disorder affects, what its signs and symptoms are, and how to seek help if you or a loved one has been diagnosed with OCD.;
Breaking Bad Habits
Bad habits can be easy to start but sometimes very difficult to stop. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn and therapist Falan Johnson talk about breaking bad habits, including where habits come from, how to know if a habit is bad, and steps you can take to stop it.;
Finding a Therapist
Are you looking for some help on your mental health journey? In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn and therapist Jessie Mertz talk about how to find a therapist, including what you should know when searching and what questions to ask when you meet a therapist for the first time. They also touch on what the letters after a therapist’s name mean, and how they apply to the type of services or treatment you might be looking for.;
Coping with Rejection
Whether it’s from asking someone on a date or applying for a job, we all experience rejection at some point in our lives. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn talks with therapist April Morris about how to cope with rejection, including the common coping stages, the importance of acceptance, and how rejection can impact people differently.;
Borderline Personality Disorder
Like other personality disorders, borderline personality disorder is a commonly misunderstood and stigmatized mental illness. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn talks with Lucas Mitzel, a therapist at Dakota Family Services, about what BPD is, how it affects someone’s behavior, and where to seek treatment if your child has been diagnosed with BPD.;
Psychological Assessments: What to Expect
Do you think you might be suffering from an undiagnosed mental disorder? If so, a psychological assessment might be able to help. In this episode of Mind Your Mind, psychologist Dr. Hannah Baczynski and host Tim Unsinn talk about what to expect from a psychological assessment, including what an assessment might include, what information you might receive from the psychologist, and what you should communicate with your psychologist before and after receiving an assessment.;
Supplements in Psychiatry
In this episode of Mind Your Mind, host Tim Unsinn and Amanda Daggett explore the topic of using supplements for mental health. In addition to talking about some of the most commonly used supplements like melatonin and St. John’s Wort, they also discuss the benefits, the risks, and the research surrounding various supplements.;
Seasonal Affective Disorder (Community Chat Series)
Feeling like you’ve got the winter blues? If you’re noticing symptoms of depression with the change of seasons, it may be a sign that you’re suffering from Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD. In this special Community Chat episode of Mind Your Mind, therapists Christy Wilkie and Lucas Mitzel discuss the common symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder, how it can affect other mental health disorders, and some useful tips, tricks, and resources for managing symptoms of SAD.;
Trying New Things With Confidence
Join Christy and Lucas, therapists at Dakota Family Services, as they share practical tips for building confidence when trying new things. From managing self-doubt to building resilience, this episode will empower you to approach new experiences with a positive mindset.;
Relationships are Hard
In this episode, Christy and Lucas explore why relationships can be so hard. Join them as they discuss the characteristics of both healthy and toxic relationships, talk about the difference between normal conflict and abuse, and help you discover your love languages so you and your partner can best express your love to each other.;
Is Everybody Anxious?
In this episode, Christy and Lucas explore anxiety. Join them as they discuss the signs and symptoms of an anxiety disorder, what you can do to decrease your anxiety, and how to best help loved ones struggling with anxiety.;
Is Everyone Feeling Sad
In this episode, Christy and Lucas explore depression. Join them as they discuss the signs and symptoms of Major Depressive Disorder, what you can do to help yourself feel better, and what you can do to help your loved ones. They will talk about coping strategies, therapy interventions, and ways to help you identify when your child might need extra help.;
Change is Hard
Change is inevitable. Join Christy and Lucas as they explore big and small changes and how they impact you. Learn why change can be so hard, even good change, and discover ways to manage it effectively.;
We Need to Talk About Suicide
In this episode of "Is It Just Me," Christy and Lucas discuss the very important topic of suicide. Listen to learn about risk factors, warning signs, and what you can do to help a loved one who is struggling. Remember, you are not alone. If you need immediate assistance, call 911. If you need to talk to someone, call the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988.;
Do We Need to Get Outside?
Join Lucas and Christy as they explore the power of spending time outdoors on mental and emotional well-being. Discover practical tips, personal anecdotes, and expert insights on the benefits of getting outside and reconnecting with nature.;
Exploring ADHD
In this episode of "Is It Just Me?" Lucas and Christy discuss ADHD, shedding light on its prevalence and impact on daily life. Learn practical strategies for managing symptoms and understand why your friend or loved one with ADHD does the things they do.;
Internet Safety and Mental Health
In this episode of "Is It Just Me?", join our hosts Christy and Lucas as they delve into the complex relationship between the internet and mental health. With the digital age bringing information and social connections to our fingertips, it also presents unique challenges and opportunities for our safety and psychological well-being.;
Boosting Self-Esteem: From Marathons to Daily Triumphs
In this episode of "Is It Just Me?", Christy and Lucas discuss how common it is for people to see themselves differently from others. Using their own personal triumphs and challenges as examples, they outline the things that shape our self-esteem. Additionally, they share simple daily practices to help listeners recognize and celebrate their own personal victories. This episode is filled with tips and engaging stories aimed at encouraging listeners to undertake challenges that foster self-growth and personal confidence.;
Therapy Unveiled: What to Know Before You Go
In this episode of "Is It Just Me," Lucas and Christy talk about what it's like to begin therapy. Feeling apprehensive about starting therapy is normal, but surmountable. Together, Lucas and Christy unravel common myths about therapy and emphasize the role of therapy in disrupting negative life patterns and routines that are no longer serving you.;
Coping with the Back-to-School Blues
In the latest episode of “Is It Just Me?” Christy and Lucas tackle the transition from leisurely summer days to structured school schedules with warmth and wisdom. This episode is a must-listen for parents seeking guidance and strategies to help navigate the shift with confidence. Learn how to handle changes in routine, the importance of communication, and strategies to help the entire family adjust to and embrace the new normal. Listening to this episode can be your first step toward making back-to-school a season of growth and positive change for all.;
The Art of Overcoming Trauma
In this month’s episode of the "Is It Just Me?" podcast, Lucas Mitzel and Christy Wilkie, Dakota Family Services, dive into the complexities of trauma and its therapy. The episode sheds light on Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) and the importance of creating a trauma narrative as a cornerstone of healing. The thoughtful discussions aim to educate listeners on the intricacies of trauma, the innovative methods used in therapy, and the role of caregivers in the recovery process. Through expert insights and compassionate storytelling, Lucas and Christy provide practical advice and real-world examples for individuals who have experienced trauma.;
Navigating Life Through Mindfulness
In this episode of “Is It Just Me?”, Lucas and Christy delve into the world of mindfulness and relaxation techniques. From body scans to mindfulness exercises, they provide a soothing experience to help you unwind and distress. Discover practical tips and advice on incorporating mindfulness into your daily routine and learn how to prioritize mental well-being in today's fast-paced world.;
Mindfulness: Body Scan
In this special additional episode of “Is It Just Me” join therapist Lucas Mitzel as he gives listeners a transformative journey within their own body and mind. In this episode, Lucas guides listeners through a soothing body scan to promote calm, mindfulness, and inner peace. This episode offers a unique mixdown of gentle narration, and relaxation techniques, leaving you feeling refreshed, rejuvenated, and more connected to yourself.;